And this picture was taken last Thanksgiving.
Friday, November 23, 2012
Thanksgiving
I miss Lincoln every minute of every day and holidays are just as hard, if not harder. Pictures are taken, traditions are done, and memories are made. All the while without my son in my arms. I really missed my little turkey this Thanksgiving. Cutest darn turkey I've ever seen in my life!!!
Friday, November 9, 2012
What I would have said . . .
I feel very lucky that I have no regrets when it comes to Lincoln. We loved him more then words can describe. Pretty much every day of his life Shane and I would look at each other and one of us would say, "Isn't he the cutest kid you've ever seen?" or "they don't come any cuter than this" and we really believe that! I'd come home from work and kiss him until I laid him down in his crib. I'd tell him "I missed you all day long!!" and I really did when I was away from him.
But, as I look back on his two years on earth I sometimes wish I had handled myself differently at times. I wish I had not worried so much and just enjoyed the good and the hard times all the same. I wish I KNEW what I know now, but such is life! The video below made me cry. It's a bunch of parents with children who have special needs. They are sharing messages to themselves on the day they found out their child's diagnosis.
When I saw this video I knew exactly what I would have told myself. I would have said, 'It's going to be ok! Don't worry so much. Enjoy every second with him, because he won't be here long' And then I remember that a tiny voice inside my head was telling me those things all along. And that's when I want to scream and beg to bring him back. I'd trade places right now with any parent who has a child with special needs. I'd give anything to be part of that amazing community again and hold my head up high when I tell others how proud I am of my son with special needs.
I always have a hard time when I go to special events to support the special needs community that I ironically work in. I went to one of those today. It was a luncheon honoring the amazing people in our community who work with children with special needs. There were a few parents who spoke and although I've sat in those fund raising events for 12 years, I get it now. I understand the love these parents have for their children and feel sooooo envious that they are still experiencing that life and I am not. Tomorrow it will be 8 months since Lincoln passed away. Our life has changed so much in the past 8 months. And although life seemed stressful and busy when Lincoln was in our lives it's ironically so much more stressful without him here.
His name is finally up at the cemetery. Every time I drive up to that place I have an out-of-body experience. I want to pinch myself and wake up for this nightmare. Who is this driving up to the cemetery to visit their son's grave? It can't be me!!!
But, as I look back on his two years on earth I sometimes wish I had handled myself differently at times. I wish I had not worried so much and just enjoyed the good and the hard times all the same. I wish I KNEW what I know now, but such is life! The video below made me cry. It's a bunch of parents with children who have special needs. They are sharing messages to themselves on the day they found out their child's diagnosis.
When I saw this video I knew exactly what I would have told myself. I would have said, 'It's going to be ok! Don't worry so much. Enjoy every second with him, because he won't be here long' And then I remember that a tiny voice inside my head was telling me those things all along. And that's when I want to scream and beg to bring him back. I'd trade places right now with any parent who has a child with special needs. I'd give anything to be part of that amazing community again and hold my head up high when I tell others how proud I am of my son with special needs.
I always have a hard time when I go to special events to support the special needs community that I ironically work in. I went to one of those today. It was a luncheon honoring the amazing people in our community who work with children with special needs. There were a few parents who spoke and although I've sat in those fund raising events for 12 years, I get it now. I understand the love these parents have for their children and feel sooooo envious that they are still experiencing that life and I am not. Tomorrow it will be 8 months since Lincoln passed away. Our life has changed so much in the past 8 months. And although life seemed stressful and busy when Lincoln was in our lives it's ironically so much more stressful without him here.
His name is finally up at the cemetery. Every time I drive up to that place I have an out-of-body experience. I want to pinch myself and wake up for this nightmare. Who is this driving up to the cemetery to visit their son's grave? It can't be me!!!
The pinwheels that were left there at his funeral are still there!
Seeing his name up seems so real. So permanent.
My boys!
(My sister found this cute picture the other day. It was taken on Christmas last year. It melts my heart and breaks my heart, all at the same time.)
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Halloween
Another holiday, another heart ache.
Holidays are hard without Lincoln. Yesterday was Halloween. I missed him. A lot. My arms felt so empty as we took our 6 year old daughter out trick-or-treating around our neighborhood. I kept thinking how I should be carrying him and how much he loved being outside. It was hard not to think of last Halloween and how cute he was in his octopus costume.
Since this year our daughter chose to be Merida, from the movie Brave, I couldn't help but think how perfect Lincoln would have been as one of Merida's younger triplet brother's. Oh how cute he would have been and oh how perfect he would have played the part.
.....see the resemblance?
It would have been perfect....
Holidays are hard without Lincoln. Yesterday was Halloween. I missed him. A lot. My arms felt so empty as we took our 6 year old daughter out trick-or-treating around our neighborhood. I kept thinking how I should be carrying him and how much he loved being outside. It was hard not to think of last Halloween and how cute he was in his octopus costume.
Since this year our daughter chose to be Merida, from the movie Brave, I couldn't help but think how perfect Lincoln would have been as one of Merida's younger triplet brother's. Oh how cute he would have been and oh how perfect he would have played the part.
.....see the resemblance?
It would have been perfect....
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